I’m not sure where to turn, I’ve tried everything to get my husband to pick up after himself without success.  It’s bad,he doesn’t even flush the toilet.  Our house could be so nice but he refuses to do even small maintenance.  I’m so depressed because after a long day at work I come home to so much mess. We currently sleep in opposite sides of the house because I can’t stand his room or bed.  I’m considering a travel position just to get away from it. I’ve seen counselors and even had a breakdown over it.  He’s got a good heart and at this time I’m not considering divorce.  Any advice?